SIMPLE WAYS TO WIN PEOPLE

It takes many months, many years to develop a relationship but it can break up in few minutes. It is an art to win people with confidence, grace and ease and without raising your voice, losing your temperament and offending the other person.

It was Aristotle, wise man of Greece, who said “90% problems of life are due to tone of voice”. It is not what you say, it is how you say that creates problem.   It takes many months, many years to develop a relationship but it can break up in few minutes. It is an art to win people with confidence, grace and ease and without raising your voice, losing your temperament and offending the other person. Some of the tried and trusted ways devised by wise people are as under:

1.“Words can break bones.” Whether it is family or friend, sweet, soft conversation can turn into war of words, each side trying to justify their position. In order to live peaceful and harmonious life, one should win an argument with soft words.

2. “You cannot oblige everybody, but you can speak obligingly” (Voltaire). Instead of refusing flatly or rudely, we can speak softly and explain our inability to do it.
   
   
3. Know what to say, when to say it, and what not to say (William James). There has never been any problem from Keeping silent. Hence, psychologist William James said, “Whenever you are tempted to say anything, first rotate in your mind whether it is necessary to say or not. “Surprisingly you will find more than 50% of what you wanted to say was not required.
   
   
4. “It is better to lose in an argument than to lose friend.” “It is better to lose in an argument than to lose a friend. “Don’t always try to justify that you know more by parading your knowledge and by snubbing the other person.
   
   
5. Half of the problems of the world are due to saying ‘yes’ too soon and another half for not saying ‘no’ in time. Wise men say if you cannot do certain work, you should politely say ‘no’ and explain that you are not in a position to do the same instead of troubling your friends and relatives to help you to fulfill your promise.
   
   
6. “Two inches tongue can kill 6 feet tall man.” While speaking to others, you should be very polite and careful and not to use any hurting word. It is a popular saying that the wounds of swords are healed but the wound of words does not heal.
   
   
7. Anger is brief madness, which breaks hearts and home. Anger is brief madness, which breaks hearts and home. Anger is like an acid; it harms less on the person on whom it is thrown than the container in which it is stored.
   
   
8. The moment you promise something, you are under debt. The moment you promise something, you are under debt. Hence, promise only that what you feel you can easily and conveniently do.